One of my favorite artists is Tom Petty.  Recently, a friend of mine reminded me of a statement.  I and my friend, Russell, and our mutual friend, Lane, have hunted together for many years.  This year, as we prepared to go hunting again, we were making lists about what all we needed to get done.  Russell atta...

This year I was preparing my Christmas card list. As I went through the list from last year, there were so many changes because of friends, family members and clients passing away. It reminded me of an article I wrote over three years ago that I would like to share with you today. 

My best friends have been tw...

This time of the year fills our hearts with so many different emotions. May I share mine with you?


I know that in my younger days, there was a certain amount of dread about Christmas. It was a lot of hassle. As families from afar get together, I would ask myself: do I look like I’ve aged a lot, gotten fatter,...

Many families get together at Thanksgiving and Christmas. As a result, we as an elder care law firm get a lot of calls because adult children are “shocked” when they visit their parents during the holidays. The following is an article I wrote in 2014, but bears repeating now. 



It is sure easy to marginalize...

Medicare open enrollment sounds like a boring topic and many others have written on it. Some of you may be rolling your eyes just thinking about reading another article on Medicare.  But, let me tell you about the 45 minutes that ended up saving me thousands of dollars.

Last year I was “forced” into Medicare....

I am a guy.  We guys are notorious for refusing to ask for help.  I do not know if it is genetic, or learned.  I strongly suspect the latter, but I am not so sure.

Once my wife, my then three young sons, and I were hiking near a swollen creek in Colorado. I do not remember if it was my youngest son o...

A few weeks ago I was invited to a luncheon.  At the luncheon the featured speaker was Jim Blume, now living in the Denver area.  He was in Hays, Kansas to help support the funding of the “Stronger Forever Together” campaign for Developmental Services of Northwest Kansas, Inc. (DSNWK).  It was a fundraiser to...

I have a 22 month old grandson, Alex.  It seems like yesterday he was born.  Every time I see him he is different.  In late September of last year my wife and I got to keep Alex for a week while his parents were on a trip.  Then he was just a little over a year old.  We had a pretty good idea about what all h...

I really do feel fortunate in my life.  Though there have been bumps and bruises, and even heartache, I generally feel like I have been blessed.  I have been blessed with three sons and a wife who love me, in spite of my flaws, my sometimes lack of patience, and my failure to always be a good role model....

John has dementia.  Unfortunately, it is the aggressive and angry kind of dementia.  His family came to my office.  The facility where John is located cannot keep him because of his aggressive behavior.  The family came to us in part to help place John.  

Several years earlier, John and his...